Decisions - Decisions - Decisions

No one is better trained at making decisions than lawyers!

We learn the fine art of making decisions in Law School.  We are then tested on the decision-making process when we take the Bar Exam.  Thereafter, if we are engaged in the practice of law, or in a law-related career, we make numerous decisions (important decisions) daily for our clients, our firm, and/or our employer.

But, what about the decisions that we make for OURSELVES?  It seems that as good as we may be making decisions (and most often, the CORRECT decisions) for others, we fall short on making decisions that affect ourselves.

What kind of decision-maker are YOU?  If you don't know, you should take a few minutes to contemplate the question - - because once you become aware of how you make (or don't make) decisions, you will be freer to make better decisions in the future.

Most people have a way of handling decision-making.  Here are a few of the more common approaches:

• SNAP DECISION-MAKERS.  Often people rely on gut instincts when they make quick decisions, and while this can work well for some people, it's not always the best way for others. This is because some decision-makers make choices based on fear or discomfort with the decision-making process.  They just want to get the whole thing over with so they choose quickly without weighing options.  This can make for some pretty bad decision-making.
• SERIOUS OPTION-WEIGHER.  While people who make decisions this way are often admired for the careful attention they give to the process, there are those who practice serious option-weighing to a debilitating extreme.  These decision-makers put so much time into weighing every detail of every option that they often get lost along the way - and find it difficult to ever come up with a decision they are happy with.
• THE FLIP-FLOPPER.  While it might seem like the person has weighted each option and made a firm decision, often a few minutes, day or weeks later the person shifts his or her thinking entirely on the matter.  This type of decision-maker usually has a problem with committing him or herself to the possible outcomes of his or her decisions. And so fear drives him or her to change in quick succession.

The following is a 4-step process to help you make decisions:

1. MAKE A DECISION.  You have to realize that in decision-making there are consequences - - and then make the decision to face those consequences.
2. MAKE YOUR OWN DECISION.  Don't go to others to make your decision for you.  Take responsibility for your own decision.
3. WORK TOWARD FRUITION.  Once you have made your decision, then work tirelessly toward the end you would like to achieve.  Focus on detail and practice patience.
4. STICK WITH IT.  Do not let your doubts torment you.  You have made the decision, you have taken action and responsibility.  You will likely make mistakes along the way, and when you do, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move forward.

Obviously, this is easier said than done.  But, it must be done, otherwise you will drive yourself crazy (oftentimes, needlessly).